So they let themselves go and end up with a mate far below what they could have snagged if any mate at all.
So, that sounds like a good thing to me.
Why not let her express? But none of that really matters.
When I was dealing with people who understood that muscles weight more than fat I had no problem, but occasionally I dealt with some brainless fuck who retardedly stuck to the height-weight chart and would get me in trouble until someone with a brain would put a stop to that.